The Recce to France

What a weird stupid word "recce" is. I've only seen it written down recently and I really think it should be spelt "recky" like Becky.

If you can get over that, you might be able to tolerate this blog. Over half term we spent 6 days in France visiting 3 locations in the hope that we would "get a feeling" for one and decide to move there. It felt pretty extravagant to go away for half term, given that lots of people haven't been abroad since before the pandemic and we went to Greece at the end of August, but I made myself feel better by telling myself this wasn't a holiday, this was a recce. We were going to go to a bank and an estate agent, not just sit around all day eating pain au chocolat. Although we did a lot more eating pain au chocolat than visiting banks. We flew to Carcassonne and as were were going through the baggage check they asked us if we had any ipads or electronics in the kids bags. We we said "no they don't even own an iPad." Then Dan started saying about how we're pretty old school and they just have books and card games and stuff, and they guy seemed surprised and maybe a bit impressed. Then Dan went to far and said we just have chisels and stone and I had to reassure the man that we did not have a bunch of chisels in our hand luggage.

The places we visited were all quite close together in the middle south, which is the more affordable bit of the south coast. We basically just wandered around looking at the town centre and then a bit at the outskirts, trying out public transport, and places to eat and parks and then judged them all against each other like a game of top trumps. Why don't you play the game yourself? I'll give you a paragraph of description and 3 photos for each place and then you tell me which one you would choose...

1) Carcassonne.

The furthest away from the sea (an hour by car) and the smallest population, but the cheapest place to live. There's an airport so you can fly directly there from Manchester. There were lovely old city walls on a hill with nice touristy shops and cafes inside.  It had a river and a canal, it had a nice square with loads of restaurants and a fountain. The streets were very narrow. Only one car can fit down at a time so a lot of the roads were one way.

2) Narbonne.

Slightly bigger population than Carcassonne. Only a few miles from a lovely sandy beach, so you can get there on the number 8 bus from the city centre. No airport, so you would have to fly in from Carcassone or Beziers. Big square in the centre by the river with restaurants all round it. There was a permanent indoor food market and an (I'm guessing weekly) outdoor market.

3) Montpellier.

A much bigger place than the other two. A city with a tram network so that you can easily get all over the city, just like you would get a tube in London. City bikes that anyone can hire, (you get two hours for free) a lot of students, a very young aged population on average. Not far from the beach but you can't get directly there from the centre on public transport. You'd have to get a tram and then a bus. Lots more things to do just because it's bigger. Not many houses with outdoor space though, the majority of people live in apartments and it's more expensive to live there than the other two places. There is an airport but they don't fly to the north of England, so you would have to go to Beziers to fly to Manchester.

So which one would you choose?

I'll tell you our thoughts later, but in the mean time here's some of my general observations about the differences between the French and the English that I spotted on this trip:

The French are much more likely to have very round Harry Potter style glasses, especially children.

Red trousers are more common in France especially among men. You don't have to be a hipster to wear them, or maybe all French people are hipsters?

Smoking seems to still be cool in France. There seemed to be a lot more people doing it publicly in parks and stuff.

Gingers are pretty rare in France, although people did still assume I was french before I spoke, so I don't stick out as much as I have done when I was in the Middle East.

The places we went in general all seemed a bit more multi-cultural than Liverpool.

Public transport was really good value, but we got 3 trains and all of them were delayed. 

Food in supermarkets was generally more expensive than in the UK. A french homeless person asked me to buy him cheese... I don't think that would happen here.

Restaurants don't open till 7 at the earliest. So if you want to go out to eat at 5 or 6 you have to eat from a lunch place, so you could get a sandwich or a crepe, but not a proper hot meal. 

Loads of shops shut for a hour or two around lunch time!

The french were a lot more stick about covid, we had to wear masks everywhere and show that we've had a vaccine in order to eat out.

Deciding where to live

Before we left we had emailed a few international churches, because it is important for us to find a good church there. We got responses from all of them and they were all happy to have us and very helpful and welcoming, but the one in Montpellier seemed to have a better mix of people, i.e. not just old people, some families and stuff. So I went into the trip thinking "I hope Montpellier wins and that we can afford to live there."

We liked Carcassonne, and then we liked Narbonne even more, but all the time I was hoping Montpellier would be amazing. We weren't the on a Sunday unfortunately to go to the church, but I did go to a ladies thing at the church, which was food, chatting, a bit of Bible study led by a really nice American lady. I met women from all over the world, a lot from French speaking Africa, some American, some other Europeans and one other Brit. There was a good age range and they were all really lovely and welcoming. So I would really love to be part of that community, but there are two major things in the way:

1) It is quite expensive to live there. The problem with Liverpool being so cheap is that everywhere else seems expensive. So we could probably only afford a 2 bed apartment, or that kind of thing.

2) I don't love the city that much. It was fine, there were lots of nice things about it (like I love the trams). There was nothing wrong with it, but I just got a better feeling about Narbonne. 

It's really hard not to be influenced by the weather though, it was 19 degrees and sunny in Narbonne and I swam in the sea! Whereas in Montpellier it was grey and rainy.

So our next steps are to look into the towns near by Montpellier. Is there somewhere we could live quite near the city, that is more affordable? Then maybe we can get a bit of outdoor space and still be a part of Montpellier international church. That's the next thing we will research. Nothing's decided, we might completely go back to the drawing board and look at another city that we previously discounted for being a bit far north, for example, but that's where we're up to. Thanks for reading.

Percy's big party

I've been in France all week trying to decide where to live, but before I write that blog here's one that I started just before we left:

This weekend was the first time we hosted a proper big birthday party. This year Percy requested a hall party. So far we've only ever hosted parties in our house or he's taken a couple of friends out, once to Gulliver's world (a kids theme park) and once to Mattel play (a really good sort of soft play place). We've been to a lot of hall parties for people from his class, some with a bouncy castle and some with an entertainer who would do games or be in character as a super hero. 

trying to stop kids going on the bouncy castle before it was fully inflated.

I actually can't believe the effort people put into parties these days. I don't know if things have changed party wise since the early 90's, or maybe my experience was different to other people my age, but I can only remember one whole class party from my childhood and that was in a big soft play. 

Almost all of my parties were in the house, apart from one swimming party I had joint with my sister. I had a few friends round and we played games like; the chocolate game, where you have to take turns going round the circle rolling a dice. When someone gets a 6 they have to put on gloves and a hat and eat a bar of chocolate with a knife and fork. They eat as much as they can before the next person rolls a 6. It's such a great game! Occasionally I meet people now that haven't heard of this game and I just can't believe it, what were you doing in the 90's if it wasn't that? I was thinking about doing this game at Percy's party but it isn't very covid safe to all be dribbling on the same bar of chocolate. Also, given how aggressive pass the parcel got I think this was a good choice.

I felt very grateful to be able to use our church hall. It's 5 minutes walk from our house and a good size, they actually don't normally rent it out at the moment, but because they know us, and we were willing to just have the keys and do all the setting up and cleaning up afterwards, they let us have it. We paid to hire a bouncy castle and then everything else we got for free or made ourselves. Percy chose a space theme which was a lot of fun. Unfortunately we couldn't get a space themed bouncy castle, but Percy choose PJ masks because, "they come out at night" and space is like a huge night time world, right? I hope everyone at the party got that tenuous link. 

My sister Sarah did face painting which she's very good at and everyone loved. I'm surprisingly bad at face painting considering I'm an artist. A 4 year olds face is really the most annoying canvas. I never consider it as a surface, although maybe I should. Sometimes I do the food shop with Eric in the trolley seat facing me, if I wrote my shopping list on his face maybe he'd feel like I was engaging with him more.

I loved that a boy requested that Sarah paint a black hole on his face and I love even more that when Sarah made a facebook status about this she accidentally missed out the word hole. She said "today I went to a 7th birthday party which involved painting a child's face to look like a black." I think facebook should have permanently banned her for that.

I did the "entertainment". I used my sound system and mic that I own from comedy and I led a few party games. It was a lot of pressure being the person who decided who was out in the games, I was relieved when I thought to delegate that job to another kid so that I didn't have to feel the guilt. There was a lot of tense tactical playing going on in pass the parcel. It's crazy how competitive kids will get for a sweet when theres a table of sugary treats right in front of them.

We had glow in the dark temporary tattoos, which I really loved the designs of. I wonder if I should get a real tattoo. The problem is though I could only get one on the upper half of my body because I had my pelvic lymph nodes removed when I had cancer, which means I have to be careful not to get any cuts on my legs because the magical bits that go and heal cuts don't work properly. So I'm only allowed to permanently scar my upper body.

I made a lot of stuff for the party including this photo thing. I don't know what you would call it, but comedian James Acaster calls it the opposite of a mask. 

If you want this thing please get in touch, I can re paint it with a different name and number.

I also made this fun alternative to a government slogan as a sign for the face painting. 

I made some alien biscuits and alien space crafts from a Tunnock's tea cake and a meringue and a grape, not as one child asked me, an olive. That would be a pretty disgusting snack. Because I made all of this stuff I delegated making the cake to Dan. Percy wanted a cake of the solar system, just a nice easy 9 planets plus the sun and moon. It took so long to make and I am a bad delegator. I like to delegate but I also like things done the way I would do it. Dan has really no cake decorating experience, so watching him was like watching a 4 year old. It was a tense time but we managed to make it through without getting divorced. Hooray for us. 

Fun game: If you had to date one of these guys which would you pick?

Dan's solar system cake, this photo doesn't really do it justice. it was pretty impressive and the inside of the a lot of the cakes were coloured too.

We really have upped the bar for parties though, on the way back from this party Eric was describing his dream party. He's pretty new to parties because he was 2 when we went into lockdown and cant remember the before times. on his 3rd birthday (which was his second lockdown birthday) we asked him what he wanted to do for it and he just said "play with toys" because he actually didn't know what a party is. Now he's asking for a mario themed party! Hopefully by his birthday (May) we'll be in sunny France. More about that soon.

If you came to Percy's party thank you. He had the best day ever.

France update

In August Dan, who had been made redundant, got a new remote job based anywhere in Europe which means we are going to try living in France (if you want to read a previous blog about Dan's job and our decision to move click here).

People now keep asking us, "how are the moving plans going?" It's like when I was engaged people always asked, "how are the wedding plans going?" and in the first 6 months of being married people always asked, "hows married life?" No one asked me anything about my job the whole time I was engaged and no one ever asks me now "how's married life?" I think people are scared to ask that to people who have been married over a year in case it's not going well.

But to answer the question the moving plans are going slowly. The major thing that needs to get done before we can go is our French identity documents, which is a very long process that we could have done years ago but never got round to doing. Like writing a will. (If I die Dan can have my stuff I hope this blog will count as a legal document.) So the first step in the process is Dan getting his french ID card. And even though the whole world has been doing everything remotely for the past 18 months, you still physically have to go to London to do this. Trying to get an appointment has been a nightmare. You can only book online and all the slots are always fully booked. There's a French consulate guy in Liverpool who you can meet, but he only works Thursday afternoons, doesn't respond to emails and also takes long holidays. 

Dan went to visit him in one of the short windows of time he was meant to be in and he still wasn't there, so we gave up on him and emailed the Chester woman. She responded to the email with useful info we wished we'd know weeks ago: there's no way around going to London, you have to use the online booking system, if you look in the middle of the night you might be able to get a cancellation. After 3 nights of getting up at midnight we finally had an appointment. Dan managed to get the train down see the consulate and continue working without his new job realising. From that day which was the end of September it takes 4 weeks and then the document should arrive. They can't just post it to you though, that would be way too easy, they wanted to post it to the Liverpool guy who's never there but we managed to get it posted to the woman in Chester who sometimes responds to emails. Woohoo!

Once we have Dan's ID we can begin all the other bits of getting the boys ID and my visa. We might even have to go to London 2 more times because I'm don't think they can do 2 kids ID cards in one appointment. How ridiculous is that?

Other stuff we've done to prepare: I've started online french lessons, which are actually really fun. The teacher is lovely and we play games like we split into 2 different zoom rooms and each think of a celebrity and then we play a guessing game asking things like "c'est un homme?" "il est anglais?" Last week we had to order something from a menu but ask for some changes, so for example say something like "I'll have the salad but please swap the peppers for tomatoes." I accidentally reverted back to GCSE Hannah and suggested to my partner who I was meant to be practising with that we do silly ones. e.g "instead of the peppers I would like some horse meat." Then I realised this is the kind of stuff I did at school and told him and he said "What, you covered up a bad french accent with humour?" Then I realised I cover up everything awkward with humour and admitted to being a comedian. It sort of turned into online therapy until we were back in the main zoom again and I was making everyone laugh with my outrageous french orders.

I recently performed some new material about learning French at my comedy night. I ripped into the masculine and feminine thing. Did you know that the word vagina is masculine? Yes, some old French guys have decided that my vagina is a man. Rude. I also talked about the different ways you say "you" for formal and informal and that I wasn't going to learn both and so I have to choose between having loads of acquaintances or just a few close friends. Naturally most people would choose a few close friends, but how do you make those friends when it's rude to say "tu" (the informal you) to someone you just met. SO my plan for moving to France is to go up to strangers and say "voulez vous le binge drinking sur le weekend?" (yes thats an actual french phrase!) Then if the say yes, we go out and have fun, but if we become friends to the point where they start using "tu" then I will cu them out of my life completely, because no friendship is worth learning two different verb endings for.

The boys on our campervan trip to France in 2019. The van was too small and Dan had to sleep in an "L" shape around Eric for the whole trip.

I've also just started trying to sort out the house. We're going to rent it out, probably unfurnished, so that means every single thing that we own needs a decision on if it's coming with us or going to a charity shop or being stored for a bit. If we were buying a house we'd probably just get everything shipped over, but I think we'll be staying in an airbnb first and then renting a furnished house. so we don't want to just move everything. There's things that I'll obviously take like clothes and things I'll obviously get rid of like toys the boys are too old for, or big furniture. But theres a lot of stuff in the middle sized stuff that I just don't know like my fruit bowl, pots and pans, the bathroom bin or a duvet. Cheap enough things that I could buy again but small enough that they could go in the car but not all of them. I got a bit stressed about it all last week and at 1 in the morning couldn't sleep so went downstairs listened to some music drank a hot chocolate and did some doodling. It was the best emotional breakdown I've ever had! Our current plan is I fly over with the boys and Dan drives with a car full of stuff, and then next time we're in England Dan drives back and we all four fly back leaving our car here to sell. Then we all fly back and buy a french car. Everything is complicated and expensive, it would be some much easier to just stay here but where's the adventure in that?

Last blog I wrote about the places were considering living. A few places, like Lyon and Marrsielle, are off the list now mainly for being too expensive. So we now have 3 places on our short list Montpellier, Narbonne and Carcassone. We're going to visit all 3 in half term and hope that wandering around them we will just know which one is right for us and that we won't disagree! We're going to do some boring thing while we're there, like go and ask questions in a bank and an estate agents, but I've also invented the patisserie challenge. The boys have been doing well at learning French online with Mr Innes French on youtube, so I said we could go into a patisserie and they can have whatever they like as long as they ask for it in French. I forgot they have learnt numbers, until I heard Percy practising "Je voudrais trente pain au chocolats, s'il vous plait."

A bientot.

My Weirdest Job

I meant to write this two weeks ago but I've been so busy with my random jobs that I've had no time to write about them. With Eric in school I now have 5 days a week where I can do random stuff, and on my first full day of freedom I did the best job ever, I was paid to put on a surprise Taskmaster party where I got to be Alex Horne. 

If you don't know Taskmaster it's a TV show on channel 4 where comedians and other celebrities do silly tasks. Some are creative tasks like recreating your favourite video game in real life, or painting a picture of a horse while ridding a horse. Some are more like logic puzzles; get a basket ball through a hoop without using your hands or empty a bath tub without removing the plug (or tipping or damaging the bath tub). Some even involve random members of the public that happen to be near the Taskmaster house in Richmond.

I love the show, I especially love the creative tasks where you can interpret them in different ways. I would love to be a famous enough comedian to be on the show. I'd love that much more than actually being a famous comedian, but the next best thing is coming up with a load of tasks for people to try. This is the 3rd time I've done a version of this. I first did a taskmaster day for the kids during lockdown which was fun but a bit limiting with young children. We did "eat your biscuit into a shape of a dog", and "invent a new Mr man." 

Then in Jonesfest (our annual garden festival) I hosted a night called "Mockmaster" where I got 4 comedians to do the stand up challenges from Mock the Week and some Taskmaster style games. The best of the games was called Burgle Our House. The 4 comedians had to sneak round our house in the dark and then fill their bags with the most valuable things they could find without waking 3 sleeping children. It's one of the most fun things I've ever done, and I really need to get round to editing down the footage of the whole night so I can share it. Anyway with 2 Taskmasters under my belt I managed to get the job of Alex Horne and the surprise birthday Taskmaster.

What made the day so epic was bribing my parents to go out for the day so I could use their house. Everyone should get to use their house because it was paid for by the government as my parents were forced to relocate due to HS2. So if you've ever paid tax you are allowed to borrow my parents riverside house. Its the perfect Taskmaster location...

The first task involved me throwing rubber ducks into the river every 30 seconds while they had to collect them in a net and put them in a bucket. We were all on some kind of boat.

Another one of the games I did here and at Mockmaster was blind connect 4. I scented the pieces so the red pieces smelled of peppermint and the yellows smelled of perfume and you had to play a game by picking your counter from the mixed box using your sense of smell. Every 3rd go a seeing person gets to put a counter in. It's surprisingly interesting.

And here are the results from the decorate your cake to look like a celebrity round.

All in all it was a lovely day. Thanks to Rob for letting me do my dream job and to Gemma for having great taste in birthday fun.

No job could compare but my other jobs at the moment are pretty fun too. I'm starting a new mosaic project at Woolton primary, even though I just made them the biggest mosaic I've ever made...

I'm doing a Super Mario kids room mural and will soon be running 2 after school art clubs. I was a Covid tester for a bit in a school, that was a lot less fun, and I've got 2 more comedy nights to run before I start getting ready for the big move to France. 

More about that in the next blog.

The First Week

Eric started reception class last week, it really is the end of an era for us. I actually wanted to call this blog "end of an era" but I already used that title on a blog post I wrote years ago. I wrote it when I decided that I wouldn't wear bikini's anymore. An update on that... an airbnb guest from Italy left a bikini in our house. I probably should have posted it back to her but instead I wear it. I don't feel great about it body wise or morally, but I guess the bikini thing wasn't the end of an era after all. Just like when Percy started in Reception and I thought that was the end of an era, then 6 months later I was spending all day every day homeschooling him. 

So anyway, Eric has been very excited to join his big brother in school, he said "I have been waiting for this for about 2 million days." I said, "how many days do you think are in a year Eric?" and he said "5?" The school do this staggered start thing, which is very annoying for pretty much everyone. The first week that Percy was back Eric wasn't. Then Eric was in for 2 hours a day in the afternoons, then this week he's in 8:55-1:30 and then this coming Monday is his first whole day. He was so desperate to go but by day 3 he said, "oh school again, I've been for soooo many days." I think it's just hitting him that he has to go 5 days a week for 3 times his life time, and that's quite a lot.

So far he seems to have done crafts and a lot of playing in the sandpit and theres a few boys names that he mentions that he plays with. He's coped with it really well considering he's one of the youngest and possibly the smallest in the class.

I remember being really emotional about Percy's first day. It felt like a really big deal that I wasn't going to see him so much anymore and he was going to make all these new friends and like he was going to lose his innocence. I didn't have a great experience of primary school - I was dyslexic but didn't find out till I was 16 so I always found reading and writing really hard work, and also I joined a new school in year 2 and struggled to fit in. But so far Percy doesn't seem to have had any of the issues with reading and writing that I had and he loves school. Hopefully we won't ruin that all for him when we move him to France! I thought I would be really emotional about Eric starting because it's such a life changing thing to have them both in 5 days a week and I don't really want him to grow up, I miss him being tiny. Not like a baby, I don't miss those days at all, but I really miss two year old Eric. 

The staggered start made it less of a big deal though, and then it turned out I was actually working as a covid tester on that day, so Dan took him.  I felt no emotion taking him in for day 2. I'm weird like that sometimes, I can be really emotional thinking about something that might happen. I remember thinking about the day when we would get a house, in the days where we were sort of homeless, and then when we actually got given the keys and it was just me and a tiny Percy who didn't realise this was significant, it felt like that was not the time for emotion. And then my head quickly moves to all the things we need to do and maybe that pushes out the emotion.

It's been quite a different experience for me - Eric starting school compared to Percy. This time I've made Facebook friends with some parents who have kids starting in the same class, we've had a few play dates and theres a class whatsapp group and I think everyone is enjoying getting to know each other. Whereas with Percy, I knew two other parents from his class and I didn't really make new friends. We've been to loads of whole class parties and I'll obviously say "hi' to other parents but I actually think it would be a bit weird for them if I started trying to make friends now.

Today Eric came out of school saying "mummy I got a sticker for bumping my head!" We asked how he did it he said he didn't remember. Not a great sign. I also find it hard not to read the "wow" and "terrific" without sarcasm.

Both boys have already been to class birthday parties this term. Percy has had so many invites, but one less than I thought. He came out of school one day saying he was invited to this girl's party, but we couldn't find the invite anywhere. I thought it must have gone missing so I messaged a friend who had the invite and they sent me a photo of the invite. yesterday I messaged the Dad of this girl to say "thanks very much but we unfortunately can't make it." He said "thanks for letting me know" Then Percy tells me that this girl said he was actually never invited, and he just saw an invite and thought he was invited. EMBARRASSING.

Thanks for reading x

Sailing with kids

On Sunday my extended family all got back from a sailing holiday around the Greek islands, we've all shared beautiful photos and it looks absolutely idyllic. We were very lucky to go, there were some amazing moments, but before everyone feels jealous I feel a bit of a duty to share a bit of the reality of what 8 adults 2 kids and a baby living on 2 small boats in a pandemic is actually like.

How we got into sailing:

me in 1993

My Dad has always been a big sailing fan, he was in a sailing club as a kid and learnt on small dinghies. When he was a student he helped his rich uncle sail from Guernsey to Malta. Rich people generally love to owe yachts but don't know how to sail them.My Dad tested all of his many girlfriends out on boats and my mum passed the test. 

My Dad aged 21

Women who unsuccessfully auditioned for the role of my mum

I went sailing in the womb and all through my childhood, but because my Dad was such a good sailor I didn't pick up that much. I did my RYA (royal yachting association) level 1 when I was about 12 that was very basic sailing on a topper, which is a small boat that is easy to capsize, but it's like fine to capsize it - you actually have to capsize it and then make it the right way round again as part of RYA level 1.

1987 when I was bald and my Dad had hair

1995 mum stayed at home with baby Sarah and me and Jo and a load of men sailed to the channel islands. I did that pose on every single picture of that holiday.

2005

Dad regularly hired boats from near Southhampton with us and a few friends and sailed to France or the Channel Islands and back in a long weekend. It would be like a 14 hour over night sail, go out to a French restaurant for tea and then sail back. I loved it. I love adventures, I really like the rocking boat thing, I like roller coasters and stuff and it's cool to get somewhere for free just by the power of wind.. Some people we took did not like rocking so much. I remember sailing to France on the day of my last GCSE with a school friend Duncan where everyone except me and Dad were sick, and I remember Duncan shouting "pass me the saucepan, I'm going to be sick."

When we were planning our big trip cycling to the middle east it seemed the obvious thing to ask Dad for a lift across the channel, we packed our folding bikes onto the boat in Southampton and 4 days later we got dropped off on the river Seine and began the cycle to Paris.

The Channel is a difficult bit of sea to sail in. It's a busy shipping lane, it's never really warm and like most seas it has tides which you really have to think about or you might run aground. The Mediterranean on the other hand is normally warm and doesn't have tides because it's really like a huge lake.

In the year 2000 we went on our first flotilla holiday (that's when you sail with a load of boats), and the kind we went on is when you have a lead boat that tells you what to do and fixes stuff if it goes wrong. So each morning you meet up in a outdoor cafe in Greece or Croatia and the 3 people on the lead boat tell you 'today we're going to sail to this island, it will take 3 hours if you do 6 knots. Steer on the compass point 160 degrees and watch out for this rock here.' And then you all go there. The lead boat helps you come into the harbour by telling you exactly when to drop your anchor and being there for you to throw your ropes to, and then you all jump in the sea for a nice swim and then go out for a meal. It's the easiest way to sail, you can even do it as a complete beginner. I did it twice as a teenager but this holiday was the first time I did it as a parent. It was pretty hard work. We did have a great time and I'm vey grateful to have had the chance to go, the boys absolutely loved it but here are 4 things that make sailing with kids in a pandemic not the most relaxing holiday:

1) Space

This is the layout of the boat.

and this is the reality of putting 6 people in that space:

We intended the boys to be in the front, me and Dan to be one side, and Sarah and Luke the other, but we quickly realised the boys can not share a little bed. The first night it was very warm, quite noisy and a bit rocky and they were just rolling into each other and poking each other, so we had to separate them and so the rest of the week Dan slept with Percy and I slept with Eric in a triangle shaped bed. The worst shape for a bed. Especially when sheets are famously rectangular. I'd carefully put Eric to sleep on one side only to find him completely in the middle and I basically had to work out what shape to sleep in after he had gone to sleep. It was reminiscent of the time we hired a camper van and Dan slept in a "L" shape around Eric for a whole week.

2) Covid

Greece is on the amber list, which means you can go there if you jump through some very specific hoops but if you accidentally jump through the wrong hoops you will be fined. So we had to take this special test that you have to pay for, it was vey similar to the free ones except you had to pay for this specific one and take it 72 hours before flying back. So on that morning everyone got out their red and white covid test box and we got our green and white one. Yep we had the wrong one, and if we didn't get hold of the right one soon we would get fined £500 per adult. So that was a tad stressful. My sister Jo managed to accidentally capture the moment we realised this. Luckily the sailing holiday crew came to the rescue and we managed to buy a test off them and take it just in time.

3) Down time

In a normal day at home, even in the summer holidays, we get a bit of a break from the kids when they watch T.V. for 45 mins to an hour a day and then they go to bed at 7 so we get our evenings to ourselves. And they're getting better at just playing together, so it's not like when they were babies and they needed watching the whole time. But on a boat there's no T.V., the only screen time was the etch-a-sketch (which is really fun by they way, I got into it). But yeah no real space to play. And we had communal meals out at 8ish and so they boys were not going to bed until about 9:30 most nights. 

Lakka harbour on Paxos in case it wasn't obvious

4) Actual sailing

I love sailing, but I'm used to having my Dad around who knows what he's doing. Because we were on 2 boats and my Dad is only one person... you do the maths. We were on the non-dad boat and my sister Sarah had been picked as lead skipper, purely because she didn't have children. It was quite a lot of pressure on Sarah on the first day to go to all the briefings and learn all the stuff, but she did a great job. 

We didn't really do much actual sailing at all because we were only doing short hops. Dan is also not a great fan of sailing because he gets very seasick. On our first ever sail together across the Channel he was sick about 10 times. He also didn't know that when you sail it's normal to be on an angle, so you would normally sit on the side of the boat that is right up in the air looking down. So the whole time he was in a constant state of fear thinking we were going to capsize, but we were wizzing along loving it. This time he was much better because it was shorter bits and he took anti-seasickness tablets but he still felt rough.

all worth it for this though

When we got home Percy lay out on the floor like a star fish and said it's so good to lie down without mummy's suitcase on my feet. For at least a day afterwards we were all gently swaying. I had the best nights sleep I love sleeping on a rectangle.

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We're moving to France!! 

Dan has been looking for a new job for a while because he was getting made redundant on 1st September. He's know for quite a few months that this would happen and has been considering different job options. Although his job is great in terms of flexibility and he enjoys working from home, writing procedures for a housing company is nobody's childhood dream. He was ready for change and a bit of adventure. He considered joining the police, which is something he's been interested in since he was a teenager, but there were quite a lot of downsides like random shift pattens, less money, and scallies shouting abuse at you. So he was also looking at remote jobs based in Europe meaning we could move abroad, and he got one! 

Because Dan is half French him and the boys can live in France (or anywhere in the EU). I can get a WAGS pass but only to France not the rest of the E.U.

The job is technical writing for an IT company based in the Czech Republic with offices in London too. So for example he would write a blog abut their stuff in English and French. Here's the kind of thing I would write if I'd got the job: 

Have you heard about our computer thingy? It saves loads of time. Instead of pressing loads of buttons everyday to check your computer system is all fine you just press this one button and then our special thing does all the stuff for you, like an overprotective mother. Think of all the free time your employees will have to just muck around! They'll be so happy they'll probably kiss you. 

Somehow him writing that but better is Dan's new full time job.

We've talked about moving countries forever. I can't really believe I've stayed in Liverpool this long. I've always thought I'd move somewhere Arabic speaking. In 2005 when I was 19 I went to volunteer at a community centre in Bethlehem, I had such a great time that I went back again in 2007. There was a time when I thought I might end up there more permanently, but then when I got together with Dan it felt a bit weird to take him to my gap year place and I thought maybe we should find a new place that's ours rather than mine. 

sleeping on a roof in Bethlehem 2007

We did our big trip cycling from Liverpool to Kuwait in 2013 with the view of possibly finding somewhere on the way that we might like to settle in. We really though Lebanon might be the place, but after spending a while there we didn't really get the feeling. You have to pay to visit the beach there, hotels buy up the best beach spots and make it like a resort you have to pay for, and I'm just not down with that. Also there's occasionally bombing and the electricity doesn't work half the time, but mainly the beach thing. We loved Jordan a lot more though, if I had to pick an Arab country to live in now Jordan would be it. It's a great holiday destination if you're looking for something a bit different.

A cool bit of rock in Petra, Jordan.

When we got back from our trip we realised how much we missed Liverpool. We were so well connected there and as we wanted to have a baby we thought actually it makes sense to stay where our support network is. There was a time when we were tempted to move again, when our house sale fell through and we were suddenly sort of homeless with a house deposit burning a hole in our pocket. It wouldn't really have been great timing though. It worked out well in the end, we bought the house we are currently in and had another baby. I felt really settled. I've enjoyed decorating the whole house, there was definitely a time where I really had no desire to move and Dan was worried we'd live here forever. 

In the elections a couple of years ago I said that if Labour got in I'll have another baby (because they had some free childcare policies) and if the Tories get in I'll move to France (because I hate them). I was a bit joking but a bit serious. That day was kind of the end of me seriously considering a 3rd child but I always thought if I didn't go for number 3 I'd want to do something else more fun instead, so that I wouldn't look back and just think that was a thing I didn't do.

So Plan A is rent out our house and rent a house or apartment in France for one year. We could go anywhere so we're currently trying to pick somewhere. Our criteria is:

1) The south because I'm not learning a new language for the weather of Devon. Why not just move to Devon.

2) Somewhere you can get to from Liverpool or Manchester airports. Because no one wants to travel to Gatwick.

3) Somewhere near the sea or a lake. 

4) Somewhere near an international church. I do want to fully integrate and learn French but it would be nice to have some English speaking friends, and to know some Christians.

And out of those places we'll see what you can get for your money and which ones we like. So far we are researching Marseille, Lyon, Montpellier and Beziers.

Then if plan A goes well and we like France and the boys are happy and stuff, then we might try and buy somewhere or at least move to somewhere a bit more permanent. But if it's not going well and we want to come back then we can. We might have lost the kids school places but we'll still have our home.

We told the boys, Eric has really no concept of time or geography so he doesn't really get it. Percy seemed fine about it. I asked him what he would miss thinking he might say the grandparents but he said "well we haven't see Stonehenge yet so we should probably visit there before we go" -sorry grandparents.

Percy in Nice 2019

I've signed up to French classes that start in October, until then Dan is teaching me. The kids are learning though "French with Mr Innes" on youtube. I forgot how annoying French is with all their gender stuff. like that I have to say Je suis AngalaiSE but the boys would say Je suis AngalaiS. It really made me think about French people who change gender and how difficult that would be for friends and family because there's so many more opportunities to make gender based mistakes.

I've been telling people we're going in January but that's really just a date I've picked from thin air. There's a lot of boring stuff to sort out but were going to do it! And we'll have a big party before we leave.

Au revoir mes amis.